It Was More Than I Could Handle

September 28, 2012

I wrote Robert a letter (this sentence will mean nothing to you if you haven’t read THIS).

Thankfully, it only took Robert a few days to write me back.

I was admittedly dying to receive a response.

His letter DID NOT disappoint.

I might have already said this…but I intend to write him back…for the rest of our lives.

And I plan to share all of our words.

On 8.24.12, I wrote…

Hello Robert, 

I’m sorry it has taken me so long to write you. I thought about it every day, I just didn’t sit down to do it. I finally wrote about our meeting at the MoMA for my website and decided I could put off this letter no longer. How have you been? Have you been eating seasonal fruit crisp with other young ladies at the museum? I wondered if you do that often or if you typically dine alone. I feel very fortunate to have wound up in the seat across from you. I really loved all of your stories and I hope you will write me back and tell me a few more. I bet you have so many more to tell. I would love to show my friends a photo of you and your wife…if that’s not too much to ask.

I hope you are well.


And on 9.1.12, Robert wrote…

Dear Natalie, 

I feel so good about meeting you at MoMA. Sitting across the table from you, my intuition told me you were a loving woman. I think your letter took a long time because you are so involved in people’s lives.

I’ve been loving my New York life. I’m typing my diary from my Dutch trip. Then Jane will edit it, add pictures & I’ll send you a copy.

I’m amazed you remember seasonal fruit crisp. Delicious! No I haven’t met another young woman I enjoyed as much as you. I often eat by myself. Let me tell you more about myself. When I was 13, my father, mother & I moved to a 25 acre farm near Flemington, New Jersey. I am an only child. I rode my bike 2 2/3 miles to high school. If you lived 3 miles from school you could take the school bus. At lunch we ate in the auditorium. The center aisle separated the boys from the girls. Each year we looked over the new girls. I was attracted to Peggy Black. I really didn’t know anything about her. I ate lunch with a group of boys. Our leader was Artie Banker. He invited Peggy to sit next to me. She did. I put my head down between my knees. When she continued to sit there I got up & left the auditorium. It was more than I could handle. I was 16. That shyness is still in me. I love swing jazz dancing. I belong to The New York Swing Dance Society. I will go to a dance & sit all night unable to ask a strange woman to dance with me. I would love to dance with you. Maybe the next time you come to New York we could dance together. There is a place called Swing 46 that has swing dancing every night. It’s on 46th St between 8 & 9th Ave in Manhattan.

Yes we’re lucky to have met. I can’t remember which stories I told you. Were they about my three month bicycle trip in Holland? Or about my multi-racial neighborhood in Brooklyn? Or something else like my bike trips to San Diego, China, Japan, Thailand, Germany, France or Scandinavia? Yes I have a lot of stories & I would love to share them with you.

I asked Jane, my wife, for a photo but she hasn’t given me one yet. I want to send this to you so I’ll enclose one of me.

Please send me a photo of you.

I’m very well. I think it’s a privilege to be alive, especially meeting you.

With Affection,


A lot (like a @#$% ton) has happened since I last wrote to Robert.

I cannot wait to send him another letter…and share a few stories of my own.

At some point, I’m going to need to see him again. Aside from being madly in love with him, he’s starting to feel like a great first book (if you know what I mean).

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Delores Paulsen September 28, 2012 at 7:57 am

What an amazing story and an even more amazing Man it seems. Just makes you want to open the book to his what seems a very interesting life and thirst for more of Robert.
Bring it on Ms. Natalie…


Ashley September 28, 2012 at 8:38 am

Makes you want to be Robert’s friend! You write so amazing Nat! I can’t wait for more!


Christine September 30, 2012 at 3:25 pm

Love this! I am officially a member of the MoMA now so I shall try to go some Friday afternoon and make a friend 🙂


Katie Johnson October 9, 2012 at 2:24 pm

Anytime I need a lil smile in my day……and a lil break from the corporate grind…..I know I can come and find your blog. Thank you for sharing stories that make me smile.


Raquel May 12, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Found it! Has there been anymore!? =)


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